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This is the sign on my bedroom door right now.
Next time you see something that seems wrong, but “oh my gosh maybe not really maybe I shouldn’t say anything I don’t know,” you don’t have to go right to the cops or the boss or run into the situation with your fists up. What you do have to do—this is a goddamn order—is tell someone about it. Someone as confused and powerless as you are. Just check in. ”This seemed off to me, does it seem off to you?”
Have you ever been in a house that had something just egregiously wrong with it? Something massively unsafe and uncomfortable and against code, but everyone in the house had been there a long time and was used to it? ”Oh yeah, I almost forgot to tell you, there’s a missing step on the unlit staircase with no railings. But it’s okay because we all just remember to jump over it.”
Some people are like that missing stair…
Why “enthusiasm” is not a good basis for judging consent.
